I believe I will be successful, I think!If I say your life will become what you believe you will probably say that you know that. If I say you don’t believe what you think you believe you might ask how so? For the last ten years I have worked closely with entrepreneurs. People who want to start their own business and want to improve the quality of their lives and have more control. What I have discovered is that they constantly prove over and over that what they fundamentally say they believe is actually not the case and it comes as a shocking surprise to many. Discovering this illusion about themselves proves very exciting because once they see this they can then make some adjustments to their 16 Hour Power Slot. How do you AFFIRM what you truly believe? Well the fact is that your mind contains billions of differing possibilities about what you believe based on all the pieces of information that have been fed to you through your eyes and ears. So it’s not a case of trying to go through your mind thought by thought, you would end up in an asylum. Life as it is for you is presently your dominant beliefs. Taking a very simplistic example, this means that if there are 1 billion thoughts suggesting you can get in shape and there are 1 billion and 1 thoughts suggesting you can’t then it means that everything will conspire to make sure you can’t.
How do I get breakthrough? Whatever you do and whatever you put resources to whether it be time, money or energy, always ask a fundamental question:-
You may find that you have to keep asking until you reach the core motivation behind your impulse to do it. Example: “I need to make some extra money so we can have a holiday.” WHY? “Because we really need to get away.” WHY? “Because me and my wife and have been arguing alot lately and the break will do us good.” WHY are you arguing? “When we are busy we have less time to think about the other person and we end up snapping and communicating badly.” Why will a holiday fix this? “Because we will have time to be nice to each other.” FACT: The holiday will heal the sores from the bad mouthing each other but unless the ‘busy ness’ is resolved everything will happen again when the holiday is over. FACT: The solution ALWAYS LIES EXACTLY WHERE THE PROBLEM IS. Once you have listened to your WHY? always check your facts aswell so you can decide what is the best solution and whether the solution you see is actually based on fact or just an idea that you think can work! Example – Checking Your Facts “It’s time to change the design of my business website.” WHY? “Because my sales have gone done.” WHY do you think the drop in sales is the website? “Because maybe people are tired and want something new.” WHY do you think they are tired and want something new? “Because I’m tired of it so they must be! “***Aha the real motivation!***
Now, having established that you feel tired of your website this can be a valid reason for change. If you don’t believe this site will sell anymore then it will EFFECT the outcome. However, considering you have now discovered the true motivation for changing your site, you could find yourself able to change ‘your feelings… of being tired of it’ now you know the facts. The reason for asking yourself questions is that you get the words directly from your database and you need to listen verbatim in every occasion. Your Words are Life and Death to your experience. Asking Why? has always been an essential part of the natural plan we were designed for. We start as children with a pure formula for prosperity. We are free to believe anything is possible. If you have children or remember being a child you will note that children start out by asking WHY? to everything…. everything! There is a crucial reason. To train ourselves to know why we are doing things so we can control ourselves (and our prosperity). However, a child, though able to dream up a sports car that can go to outer space cannot buy one. The child in you has exercised its right to be creative and dream but the practical part of actually owning the car has to come from the adult. So, we grow up and can now independently open a bank account and can go to the car showroom without being accompanied by a guardian and can legitimately drive the car away (having passed our driving test). Great Plan! However what tends to happen is that once we grow up, the WHY? training has been knocked out of us by adults who, when asked the question “Why is it green mum?” tends to be dismissed the more they ask. Or they get a simple “Because!” It becomes apparent that asking Why? is not popular at an age when we are most sensitive to tone, vibrations and are most vulnerable in general. Children know when adults are not happy and as a child is trained to pursue happiness, it is easier to stop asking. Then as we grow up, our world gets busier. The WHY? is forgotten about and chaos ensues. The more unhappiness ensues the more we think life won’t get better, the more we invest in all kinds of vices and self-development material in a desperate plea to rid ourselves of our unhappy situations… …but asking WHY? can ROCK YOUR WORLD… literally!
What will I discover? - You are busy with things that will never bring a reward;
The Universal Creator made us on purpose, stages of our lives were created ’on purpose’… child, adolescent, adult, senior. Each stage holds keys to what we need to carry forward to the next stage to enlarge our joy and prosperity. Today ask WHY? to everything no matter how obvious you THINK it is. You will be shocked and enlightened. THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE (if you do something with what you discover!). Discover a unique layer of vision uncovering YOUR TRUTH, understand the Matrix of your experience and how to gain control WITH EASE. |
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Einstein, The Universe and Leadership
Article by Brent Filson
Ever since serving a hitch in the military, I have been nagged by the question that’s been hanging around leadership since time immemorial: How can some leaders persuade people to believe in them and follow them and other leaders can’t? But it wasn’t the military that provided me with a framework to answer that question. It was Albert Einstein and his quest for the unified field theory of the universe.
Einstein is well known for his special and general theories of relativity, two of the crowning intellectual achievements of the 20th century. But what he is not so well known for is a magnificent quest that he carried on for some 30 years — and ultimately failed in. That was his quest for a unified field theory of the universe. And it was a quest that inspired me, in my small way, to find an answer to the leadership question.
Einstein’s special theory combined space and time into a single concept known as the space-time continuum. He spent the rest of his life failing to develop a unified field theory that incorporated gravity into the electromagnetic field. But it wasn’t his trying to solve the conundrums of physics that inspired me. It was his trying to unify the grand forces of the universe that’s so compelling.
Just as there are grand forces driving the activities of the universe, I’m convinced that there are grand forces driving the activities of leadership. Whether we are talking about small or large organizations, organizations of butchers, bakers or candlestick makers, the same leadership forces — leadership laws, if you will — apply. Or at least that I was my theory, that was my quest: to find the laws of leadership, if they did indeed exist, and then show how those laws can be applied in any organizational challenge. In short, we can have a “unified field theory of leadership.”
I won’t go into the details of how I came to develop the theory — only that after a quest of several decades, working with leaders of all stripes, I developed what I call the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. I’m certainly not unifying such grand concepts as gravity and the electromagnetic field; but my theory, in its small way, has helped many leaders around the world raise their leadership effectiveness to much higher levels.
Here then is the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. It is not magic dust to transform you into a great leader. It is instead a polestar to guide and help you invigorate your leadership and communication efforts.
The UFTLS is expressed as a series of four propositions.
- Business success happens when people get results. Clearly, this is not some strange, UFO- like concept. Instead, it is a BFO a Blinding Flash of the Obvious. Yet obvious or not, it is ignored by many leaders
- too many leaders. Too many leaders focus on enabling such drivers as quality initiatives, re-engineering projects, and cost-cutting programs
- at the expense of the people who must animate those drivers. For instance, I know of a company that is engaged in the fourth major restructuring in the past half dozen years.
- Three of those initiatives have failed, mainly because they ignored the human/leadership aspect. In fact, I propose that the new initiative is doomed to fail too.
It’s obvious why: instead of being driven by a compelling market strategy, strong products, or a vision of marketplace leadership, this new restructuring is being driven by a new computer system! The officers are restructuring the company primarily to better employ that system, not to better employ people for results. I dare say the light that they may perceive to be at the end of the tunnel will turn out in truth to be a search party looking for survivors.
Leaders do nothing more important than have people get results. Another seemingly obvious statement. Yet when I give talks to leaders around the world, and ask them, “What is the most important thing you do as a leader?” some 95 percent of them give every answer but this one. This is the only right answer.
Understand the power in the seeming passiveness of “have.” Leaders cannot get results by themselves. They need others to help get those results. Today, with speed, flexibility, and teamwork being driving competitiveness, the control-freak order-leader who must tyrannize and micro manage can’t compete against the leader who can build and motivate teams to get results. In short, the leader who can “have” others get results.
The best way to have people get results is not to order them but to motivate them. Like leadership purpose, motivation is another concept that is misunderstood by many leaders. If we misunderstand the concept of motivation, how in the world can we motivate anybody to do anything? Here are the four “eternal truths” of motivation:
- Motivation is not something people think or feel but what they physically do. Only when people take physical action can they in truth be defined as “motivated.
- Motivation is not something we can do to anyone. We as leaders can only communicate. The people we want to motivate must motivate themselves. The motivatee and the motivator are always the same person.
- Motivation is driven by emotion. In fact, the words emotion and motivation come from the same Latin root, meaning “to move.” When we want to move people, motivate people, to take action, we engage their emotions.
- Motivation happens best when it is triggered by face-to-face speech.
We lead well only when the people we lead are leading well. Let’s throw out the old concept of leadership. That concept is based on the idea of “followership”
— successful leaders being the ones who got people to follow them. Baloney! Today, the speed and scope of change in the marketplace demand a new vision of leadership, leadership that can not only deal with that change but actually speed it up and make opportunities of it. That vision is this fourth proposition. How many times have we heard this seeming praise, “They’re such great leaders, they can’t be replaced!”
Within the terms of the new leadership dynamics, those “great, irreplaceable leaders” are in truth poor leaders that should be gotten rid of! If the leader’s function is to have others get results, then the best way is not simply to motivate them but to motivate them to lead others to get those results. When we challenge our leaders to truly lead, we change their world and ours. Only then are we leading well.
Those are the four propositions of the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. Einstein failed in his quest for a unified field theory; but the success or failure of this Theory of Leadership rests with you. Put it into action. Guided by its ideas, develop strategies, processes, and leadership skills.
When you do, I can’t promise that you will develop an e=mc2-like revelation, but you will start on the road to being a better leader. Because the four propositions do provide defining differences between leaders. Those differences are not as grand as the differences between gravity and electromagnetic fields, but they can help you do that very simple, down-to-earth thing that your career, that any career, rests on: lead.
Contact Information:
Brent Filson
Founder & President
The Filson Leadership Group, Inc.
413-458-4403
http://www.actionleadership.com/
