Decision is a Recipe for SuccessThere are two fundamental reasons why experiences do not come into being:- 1. We do not actually make the decision; and/or 2. Once a decision is made we do not manage it daily UNTIL it comes into being. A decision is actually a recipe, it is a predefined order for something specific to happen and then like a recipe it requires us to undertake behaviour to complete the instruction. What does that mean in life terms? If we take the example of getting in shape and regaining a lean, healthy body, it means we first take the decision “I am going to regain a lean, strong body” and then, each and every day I am going to get up and affirm to myself that I am going to do my best to stick with a plan to make it happen. If I slip up, I don’t quit (I made the decision!), I simply forgive myself and vow to do better. In most cases what happens is that maybe we have made the decision on Monday but by Tuesday we have heard about another solution or have started to doubt and question our plan because we have seen or heard something which contradicts what we were so certain about less than 24hours ago… or we simply don’t feel like doing what we need to do and I can tell you if you are following a plan based on ‘your feelings’ you are doomed now! If you were able to monitor your thoughts and feelings about what you want, you would be shocked to see how much ‘contradiction’ there is within you. I have recommended so many people on the best plan to stay in shape which is the one I use and you have no idea how many times they make the decision and then start listening to contradicting advice that puts the plan into question. The point is that the information they hear is probably correct in suggesting another way of reaching the goal, but they have now quit their decision because they are considering another plan! Sound familiar? Our world is awash with information, advice, solutions, alternative choices and it is not the information which is the problem, it is our inability to be ‘certain’ enough to ‘commit’ to the recipe and follow through. The irony is that if we felt like eating a chocolate cake for example and went to the shop and bought a cake mix, we would not doubt that if we follow the recipe on the back of the box the cake would not turn out exactly like the one on the front; the chocolate cake would as ready and as certain as the coffee! Our ‘requests’ fail because we let ourselves get distracted. When you make a request to the creative force, it shall be so provided you stay in alignment with what you need to do to maintain the result UNTIL it comes into being. Success of a plan is not an overnight event and the ‘when’ cannot be determined by you, however, it will come to fruition. Can I also remind you that patience does not mean just ‘waiting’. Patience means keeping a good attitude ‘while you wait’. These are fundamentally different behaviours. So the question I encourage you to ask is what have you made a decision about (or haven’t made the decision yet)? AND How many times do you doubt, get distracted, change your mind, entertain information contradicting the possibility that your decision will come about EACH AND EVERY DAY? If you are going to get in shape MAKE THE DECISION NOW …then each morning, get clear about what needs to happen and the things you need to stay away from… …then do not doubt it will happen by staying away from anything in yourself or anyone else suggesting that it won’t. You are doing too many things which you dismiss as ‘irrelevant’ which are blocking you progress. You can see the evidence of them inside your home hidden in so many blindspots. Just think about this, how many times do you believe that your business is going to become more successful and then open emails with subject lines like “The economy is going to the dogs… Customers are cutting back spending on [your product] because a financial crisis“. Your action to open that email is evidence that somewhere in your mind you believe this as a possibility. You’re human I know, you are curious but regardless of your curious nature which does have a purpose, you must be in control of your actions and align them with the decision you have made about the life you want. It is the one thing that separates you from success or failure. What has helped me really ‘GET’ what needs to happen is the analogy of going to a car showroom to buy a car. I know that if I don’t decide the colour, the process will not even begin. Then once I have decided the car, colour, accessories etc. I simply work each day to come up with the money. I will get the car when I have acquired enough money to meet the price and can go and exchange the money for the car… in other words, when I have done enough to prove I am serious about this car. It doesn’t work if I have even acquired the money if I still haven’t decided whether I want red or blue. In life though what happens more often than not is that we get excited, even make the decision about the car but because we don’t come up with the money quick enough we get disillusioned and go spend the money we have acquired thus far on something else to fulfill that void. We figure ‘Oh what the heck I can get the car later, I’m getting bored with waiting, I need something now’ and it is this habit which stops us acquiring anything of substance. The irony is (and something we fail to overlook or even realise) is that with everything substantial we achieve we develop a muscle which brings on more substantial things much easier now we have developed the muscle. Imagine what would happen if when women got pregnant they gave themselves an option every day ‘to opt out’. I suspect the world would have ended long ago. Excepting the events that are beyond our control and possibly a hand of fate, ‘birthing’ a child is a committed decision and once the decision is confirmed by ‘I am pregnant’ then the recipe has begun and the mother wakes up each day knowing what she has to do to nurture this experience. There are most certainly challenges and mothers can ‘feel bad’ every day for nine months in some cases but the commitment always pays off and that joy of meeting this bundle of joy when it finally comes out is nothing short of ecstatic. In fact though the pain is beyond expression, any mother I have ever spoken to has said that the joy of holding that baby dissolved the memory of the pain and they forgot about it shortly afterwards. The bottomline is that the Universe takes its instructions from our dominating thoughts, feelings and actions and the contradiction we create every day is more widespread than you realise. Those people who decide and then align their activities in mind, emotion and action to support what they have decided WIN. If you want to see the Matrix of your mind and how circumstances come about with absolute clarity, treat yourself to a copy of Power Surge and get started immediately… …or get yourself a copy of Home Your Wealth and be shocked by the blocks that exist that you could have cleared away so easily. |
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Einstein, The Universe and Leadership
Article by Brent Filson
Ever since serving a hitch in the military, I have been nagged by the question that’s been hanging around leadership since time immemorial: How can some leaders persuade people to believe in them and follow them and other leaders can’t? But it wasn’t the military that provided me with a framework to answer that question. It was Albert Einstein and his quest for the unified field theory of the universe.
Einstein is well known for his special and general theories of relativity, two of the crowning intellectual achievements of the 20th century. But what he is not so well known for is a magnificent quest that he carried on for some 30 years — and ultimately failed in. That was his quest for a unified field theory of the universe. And it was a quest that inspired me, in my small way, to find an answer to the leadership question.
Einstein’s special theory combined space and time into a single concept known as the space-time continuum. He spent the rest of his life failing to develop a unified field theory that incorporated gravity into the electromagnetic field. But it wasn’t his trying to solve the conundrums of physics that inspired me. It was his trying to unify the grand forces of the universe that’s so compelling.
Just as there are grand forces driving the activities of the universe, I’m convinced that there are grand forces driving the activities of leadership. Whether we are talking about small or large organizations, organizations of butchers, bakers or candlestick makers, the same leadership forces — leadership laws, if you will — apply. Or at least that I was my theory, that was my quest: to find the laws of leadership, if they did indeed exist, and then show how those laws can be applied in any organizational challenge. In short, we can have a “unified field theory of leadership.”
I won’t go into the details of how I came to develop the theory — only that after a quest of several decades, working with leaders of all stripes, I developed what I call the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. I’m certainly not unifying such grand concepts as gravity and the electromagnetic field; but my theory, in its small way, has helped many leaders around the world raise their leadership effectiveness to much higher levels.
Here then is the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. It is not magic dust to transform you into a great leader. It is instead a polestar to guide and help you invigorate your leadership and communication efforts.
The UFTLS is expressed as a series of four propositions.
- Business success happens when people get results. Clearly, this is not some strange, UFO- like concept. Instead, it is a BFO a Blinding Flash of the Obvious. Yet obvious or not, it is ignored by many leaders
- too many leaders. Too many leaders focus on enabling such drivers as quality initiatives, re-engineering projects, and cost-cutting programs
- at the expense of the people who must animate those drivers. For instance, I know of a company that is engaged in the fourth major restructuring in the past half dozen years.
- Three of those initiatives have failed, mainly because they ignored the human/leadership aspect. In fact, I propose that the new initiative is doomed to fail too.
It’s obvious why: instead of being driven by a compelling market strategy, strong products, or a vision of marketplace leadership, this new restructuring is being driven by a new computer system! The officers are restructuring the company primarily to better employ that system, not to better employ people for results. I dare say the light that they may perceive to be at the end of the tunnel will turn out in truth to be a search party looking for survivors.
Leaders do nothing more important than have people get results. Another seemingly obvious statement. Yet when I give talks to leaders around the world, and ask them, “What is the most important thing you do as a leader?” some 95 percent of them give every answer but this one. This is the only right answer.
Understand the power in the seeming passiveness of “have.” Leaders cannot get results by themselves. They need others to help get those results. Today, with speed, flexibility, and teamwork being driving competitiveness, the control-freak order-leader who must tyrannize and micro manage can’t compete against the leader who can build and motivate teams to get results. In short, the leader who can “have” others get results.
The best way to have people get results is not to order them but to motivate them. Like leadership purpose, motivation is another concept that is misunderstood by many leaders. If we misunderstand the concept of motivation, how in the world can we motivate anybody to do anything? Here are the four “eternal truths” of motivation:
- Motivation is not something people think or feel but what they physically do. Only when people take physical action can they in truth be defined as “motivated.
- Motivation is not something we can do to anyone. We as leaders can only communicate. The people we want to motivate must motivate themselves. The motivatee and the motivator are always the same person.
- Motivation is driven by emotion. In fact, the words emotion and motivation come from the same Latin root, meaning “to move.” When we want to move people, motivate people, to take action, we engage their emotions.
- Motivation happens best when it is triggered by face-to-face speech.
We lead well only when the people we lead are leading well. Let’s throw out the old concept of leadership. That concept is based on the idea of “followership”
— successful leaders being the ones who got people to follow them. Baloney! Today, the speed and scope of change in the marketplace demand a new vision of leadership, leadership that can not only deal with that change but actually speed it up and make opportunities of it. That vision is this fourth proposition. How many times have we heard this seeming praise, “They’re such great leaders, they can’t be replaced!”
Within the terms of the new leadership dynamics, those “great, irreplaceable leaders” are in truth poor leaders that should be gotten rid of! If the leader’s function is to have others get results, then the best way is not simply to motivate them but to motivate them to lead others to get those results. When we challenge our leaders to truly lead, we change their world and ours. Only then are we leading well.
Those are the four propositions of the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. Einstein failed in his quest for a unified field theory; but the success or failure of this Theory of Leadership rests with you. Put it into action. Guided by its ideas, develop strategies, processes, and leadership skills.
When you do, I can’t promise that you will develop an e=mc2-like revelation, but you will start on the road to being a better leader. Because the four propositions do provide defining differences between leaders. Those differences are not as grand as the differences between gravity and electromagnetic fields, but they can help you do that very simple, down-to-earth thing that your career, that any career, rests on: lead.
Contact Information:
Brent Filson
Founder & President
The Filson Leadership Group, Inc.
413-458-4403
http://www.actionleadership.com/
