Decision is a Recipe for Success

There are two fundamental reasons why experiences do not come into being:-

1. We do not actually make the decision; and/or

2. Once a decision is made we do not manage it daily UNTIL it comes into being.

A decision is actually a recipe, it is a predefined order for something specific to happen and then like a recipe it requires us to undertake behaviour to complete the instruction.

What does that mean in life terms?

If we take the example of getting in shape and regaining a lean, healthy body, it means we first take the decision “I am going to regain a lean, strong body” and then, each and every day I am going to get up and affirm to myself that I am going to do my best to stick with a plan to make it happen. If I slip up, I don’t quit (I made the decision!), I simply forgive myself and vow to do better.

In most cases what happens is that maybe we have made the decision on Monday but by Tuesday we have heard about another solution or have started to doubt and question our plan because we have seen or heard something which contradicts what we were so certain about less than 24hours ago… or we simply don’t feel like doing what we need to do and I can tell you if you are following a plan based on ‘your feelings’ you are doomed now!

If you were able to monitor your thoughts and feelings about what you want, you would be shocked to see how much ‘contradiction’ there is within you.

I have recommended so many people on the best plan to stay in shape which is the one I use and you have no idea how many times they make the decision and then start listening to contradicting advice that puts the plan into question.

The point is that the information they hear is probably correct in suggesting another way of reaching the goal, but they have now quit their decision because they are considering another plan!

Sound familiar?

Our world is awash with information, advice, solutions, alternative choices and it is not the information which is the problem, it is our inability to be ‘certain’ enough to ‘commit’ to the recipe and follow through.

The irony is that if we felt like eating a chocolate cake for example and went to the shop and bought a cake mix, we would not doubt that if we follow the recipe on the back of the box the cake would not turn out exactly like the one on the front; the chocolate cake would as ready and as certain as the coffee!

Our ‘requests’ fail because we let ourselves get distracted. When you make a request to the creative force, it shall be so provided you stay in alignment with what you need to do to maintain the result UNTIL it comes into being.

Success of a plan is not an overnight event and the ‘when’ cannot be determined by you, however, it will come to fruition. Can I also remind you that patience does not mean just ‘waiting’. Patience means keeping a good attitude ‘while you wait’. These are fundamentally different behaviours.

So the question I encourage you to ask is what have you made a decision about (or haven’t made the decision yet)?

AND

How many times do you doubt, get distracted, change your mind, entertain information contradicting the possibility that your decision will come about EACH AND EVERY DAY?

If you are going to get in shape MAKE THE DECISION NOW
If you are going to change your career, MAKE THE DECISION NOW
If you want to be healthier, MAKE THE DECISION NOW
If you want your business to be more successful MAKE THE DECISION NOW
If you want to spend more time with your kids MAKE THE DECISION NOW
If you want your hobby to become a career MAKE THE DECISION NOW

…then each morning, get clear about what needs to happen and the things you need to stay away from…

…then do not doubt it will happen by staying away from anything in yourself or anyone else suggesting that it won’t.

You are doing too many things which you dismiss as ‘irrelevant’ which are blocking you progress. You can see the evidence of them inside your home hidden in so many blindspots.

Just think about this, how many times do you believe that your business is going to become more successful and then open emails with subject lines like “The economy is going to the dogs… Customers are cutting back spending on [your product] because a financial crisis“.

Your action to open that email is evidence that somewhere in your mind you believe this as a possibility. You’re human I know, you are curious but regardless of your curious nature which does have a purpose, you must be in control of your actions and align them with the decision you have made about the life you want. It is the one thing that separates you from success or failure.

What has helped me really ‘GET’ what needs to happen is the analogy of going to a car showroom to buy a car. I know that if I don’t decide the colour, the process will not even begin.

Then once I have decided the car, colour, accessories etc. I simply work each day to come up with the money. I will get the car when I have acquired enough money to meet the price and can go and exchange the money for the car… in other words, when I have done enough to prove I am serious about this car. It doesn’t work if I have even acquired the money if I still haven’t decided whether I want red or blue.

In life though what happens more often than not is that we get excited, even make the decision about the car but because we don’t come up with the money quick enough we get disillusioned and go spend the money we have acquired thus far on something else to fulfill that void. We figure ‘Oh what the heck I can get the car later, I’m getting bored with waiting, I need something now’ and it is this habit which stops us acquiring anything of substance.

The irony is (and something we fail to overlook or even realise) is that with everything substantial we achieve we develop a muscle which brings on more substantial things much easier now we have developed the muscle.

Imagine what would happen if when women got pregnant they gave themselves an option every day ‘to opt out’. I suspect the world would have ended long ago. Excepting the events that are beyond our control and possibly a hand of fate, ‘birthing’ a child is a committed decision and once the decision is confirmed by ‘I am pregnant’ then the recipe has begun and the mother wakes up each day knowing what she has to do to nurture this experience.

There are most certainly challenges and mothers can ‘feel bad’ every day for nine months in some cases but the commitment always pays off and that joy of meeting this bundle of joy when it finally comes out is nothing short of ecstatic. In fact though the pain is beyond expression, any mother I have ever spoken to has said that the joy of holding that baby dissolved the memory of the pain and they forgot about it shortly afterwards.

The bottomline is that the Universe takes its instructions from our dominating thoughts, feelings and actions and the contradiction we create every day is more widespread than you realise.

Those people who decide and then align their activities in mind, emotion and action to support what they have decided WIN.

If you want to see the Matrix of your mind and how circumstances come about with absolute clarity, treat yourself to a copy of Power Surge and get started immediately…

…or get yourself a copy of Home Your Wealth and be shocked by the blocks that exist that you could have cleared away so easily.

Putting Everything To Work For You

So you’ve read all the books, had your healing sessions, bought all the courses and you’re still wondering if you missed something?

Just in case you missed the critical point or you need to hear it in another way (which can often be the case), here is what a successful day runs like… to effect good experiences and transformation.

You wake up. No matter how happy you went to bed somehow you have defaulted to feeling like the sky fell in. No matter how bad you feel you must remind yourself it is only a fleeting feeling, talk to yourself and turn your dialogue around so you expect a better experience. It’s up to you to send clear instructions to this day which is now effecting the experiences of your future.

You eat breakfast which should be loaded with nutrition (I recommend a protein shake with a selection of fruit, vitamins, minerals, herbs and whatever other good nutrition you can load up), if you are convinced you need caffeine then can you at least start your day with some herbal/green tea? If you are a “I don’t do breakfast” person I highly encourage  becoming a “I do breakfast” person. You live inside your body and if you don’t take care of your body, you will have to leave.

While you are in the kitchen, think ahead on your water intake, load up some water bottles to keep in some handy places so you get to drink your 8 glasses. (car, office desk and bag).

If you are talking to others in the house, quit any negative talk about how busy today will be… how you hate your job… how you hope the day will whizz by etc. You need to LOOK at what you are saying and you can do that BEFORE you open your mouth, the words don’t have to come out.

Maybe, you need to drop off the children on the way to work but the traffic is backed-up. Decide that trying to be somewhere else fast derives no benefit. The place you are at right now is where the power is. Do the best with the moment.

If driving with the children is stressful, keep a CD in the car with music that you can all sing along to and make yourselves smile. Maybe you think this is naive, well at least go and put the CD in the car so you believe that a success is possible. If you don’t, you have already concluded that failure is imminent right?

You drive to work and take up opportunities to let people out, maybe pass up a great parking space as a gift for someone else (nearer your office)… or you take the bus and smile and thank the bus driver as you get on… give up your seat with a smile… and think good thoughts about people on the bus by looking for complimentary thoughts about how good somebody looks instead of judging how bad the red skirt looks with the yellow jumper!

You get into work taking the opportunity to open doors for others going in with you.

You smile at your colleagues and encourage them to start their day better and if you are getting coffee, offer to get others a cup.

Suddenly you get a task you don’t like. Well you now get the chance to up your game points. You’ve got to do it anyway so you might as well milk its benefits. Stop wishing it was done, be present, block out everything else and give it your best attention. Is this easy? No! However, this is what will separate you from an average life and will start a powerful game of transformation. You need to talk to yourself and tell yourself you are going to have a good attitude and this job is going to go well.

Perhaps on the other hand you are self employed and working at home. Are you actually putting to work any of the material you have invested thousands of dollars in or is it collecting dust because you tried it for a week, realised you are not going to commit to what it takes or you think it won’t get results so you quit.

NOTE: Don’t invest before you consider what is expected from you. You will only get disappointed and you may end up recommending it to someone else quite flippantly as ‘a waste of money’ which is unfair.

If you are working with someone you particularly don’t enjoy the company of, take a deep breath and remember that your vibrations are going to dictate how well or how badly this experience is going to go and don’t think for one second that you do not have power.

Perhaps this task is reminding you how much you don’t like this career. Well, what are you doing this day to either get clear about what does appeal to you, or do something practical like send out a CV, register yourself  and your requirements with recruitment companies or even pick up a newspaper and browse the vacancies?

Keep in mind, when you are clear about what you want, the universe as a Creator will conspire with every resource in existence to make this happen for you (without question).

NOTE: Keep in mind when visualising your desires that the Universe as a Creator is an Artist. The more joyful and attractive the picture, the more he/she wants to paint. Have you ever seen any artist paintings or sculptures of money? No!

Visualise the job where you could see yourself using your skills and what kind of environment would be ideal for you… NOT what you think is available!

NOTE: The word ‘create’ is defined as “to cause to come into being, as something unique that would not naturally evolve or that is not made by ordinary processes.”… “to evolve from one’s own thought or imagination, as a work of art or an invention”.

Lunchtime comes. You need nutrition again. Do not overeat and make sure the meal is balanced. 40% of calories: healthy complex carbs (making sure you get 20gms of fibre per meal). 30% of calories: lean protein. 30% good fats.

NOTE: To ensure you know what moderate eating at one mealtime looks like..

- carbs such as pasta, potatoes, rice, corn, bulgur etc. should be no more than the size of a tennis ball.

- protein (such as fish, chicken, beef, turkey and lamb) should be no more than the size of your palm;

- fat such as the use of butter, oil and cheese should be no more than the size of the first digit of your thumb.

Don’t consume a glass of water or drinks until 20 minutes after your meal.

If you are chatting at lunchtime, stay away from gossip. Keep your mind on being a beacon of right thinking and behaving. If people speak critically or gossip, don’t participate.  Even better, turn the conversation around to something positive. Most people don’t know how destructive they are and though you are not responsible for others’ lives you can still gain more kudos by helping others improve their life by showing them a better way. You WILL become your environment!

If you have the opportunity to go out and take at least 5 or 10 minutes of exercise and fresh air, excellent! Keep in mind that this 16 hour power slot called TODAY is a game power packed with windows of opportunity and each moment counts for something… either creative and serving you or just idle and wasted!

The afternoon begins and maybe you feel deflated. Work on your thoughts and feelings to turn it around. Imagine the game and consider the points you can gain for yourself by cheering up… nobody is going to make you do this but you will gain. Yes, your thoughts are going to want to tell you how miserable or bored you are and how much you want to complain to your colleagues but don’t, stop yourself!

It’s finally time to go home. You think about the journey home and decide ahead of time how bad you feel about the traffic, how full the bus or train will be. Interesting how you know what it will be like considering you haven’t even started out yet. STOP. Remember your game, every second counts and you have kudos to gain still.

You decide you are tired… well let’s just check whether that is really the truth or whether you just decide it is 5pm and so you should be tired. Test: Imagine that if in this moment somebody called you and told you that there was a million dollars available to you but you had to get to the airport and be on the flight to wherever in an hour. Check your feelings now, are you really tired OR do you suddenly find this energy from somewhere?!

Truth is we are all energy in fact everything is energy and we can gain energy from our cells if we need it as that little visualisation exercise just proved.

On your way home you stopped off to do some shopping and hopefully you kept to your shopping list and stopped putting ‘emotional comfort’ items in the basket (food full of fat and sugar and things you already have but you want to buy to ‘pick yourself up’).

Did you decide you want to stay in lean shape, then check your basket before you get to the checkout. Did you decide you want to be smarter with your money, then look in the basket and see if there are only necessities in there or are there items you have to take home, clean, maintain and fill your cupboards with that you really don’t need.

Make sure your evening meal is balanced. It is easy to want to cut corners and grab something quick but it will cost you on so many levels. This game is about PROVING to yourself that you are serious about being well, strong, healthy and vital.

Your body is a machine but it is EVERYTHING YOU HAVE TO WORK WITH. Though you are mind which is the source of everything, without your body there is no experience for the mind to work through and create anything real. I know you might be looking at the ingredients and thinking “Oh, I can’t be bothered now,  I’ll have it tomorrow” but don’t give up and be lazy. Make the effort. Cook the meal and then congratulate yourself for winning!

Don’t leave the dishes or the kitchen in a mess. Tell yourself that you want a tidy and organised home and so prove it by doing the washing up and doing everything you can to have a good attitude. As I said earlier, it has to be done anyway so power it up.

If you can get help ASK for it, don’t assume you can’t get it or get angry because people can’t read your mind or you are getting left with the job again. Choose the experience with your thoughts and feelings you are not a victim.

So do you have some quality time with the kids, read, catch up on some chores or watch TV? If you watch TV you need to be serious about what you are subliminally programming your mind with… this is no joking matter. Every image suggests a possibility within your mind. Select your programmes wisely! If you are reading, what are you reading about… what are you suggesting to yourself about life through this book. Don’t use books to escape unless it is going somewhere wonderful. Images and words are writing your future and you are in control in every minute, nothing is just happening to you.

NOTE: Perhaps you are dismissing the idea you are in control because some experiences are happening to you and you cannot see where in your life you are responsible for this.

Fact is that though you may not have created this pattern you may have inherited it through your genetics… however, regardless of the habits you have inherited, your effort can REWRITE them by stopping the habit.

No habit is ever easy to break no matter who you are or your background but with your expressed intention with the day you have in front of you, YOU CAN change it now! Quit telling yourself stories about it being harder for you than anyone else, this is just not true… small steps, one day at a time.

So now it’s close to 11pm and it would be wise to be heading for bed.

Now you climb into bed and feel angry at your partner because you are not getting the intimacy you want. Well let me remind you that the one who feels bad is the one with the problem. Your partner doesn’t owe you anything despite what you read about in magazines or have been spoon fed about how relationships are ‘supposed to be’. Your needs can only be met by treating people well and not assuming you are owed anything and your unhappiness is your responsibility.

Perhaps alternatively this time reminds you that you want a partner. Well, have you actually visualised the kind of life you want with a partner and does it create happy feelings (the Creator is not interested in miserable pictures of people crying themselves to sleep) he/she likes pictures of happy people walking in the woods, making sandcastles in the beach with the kids etc.

When you finally lay your head on the pillow, reflect on your day. Even if you slipped many times with your attitude, you still have the possibility to rewrite it and make some adjustments.

Did you send some bad thoughts to someone, send an apology and remind yourself you are forgiven and you intend to keep your mind on your own game even more tomorrow. Now let it go and consider a couple of specific activities you need to get done tomorrow in alignment with improvements you want. Perhaps the diet slipped and it was because you didn’t take a packed lunch!

Then congratulate yourself, remind yourself you did good, you are doing your best, be grateful for everything you have available whatever your resources are, find things to be grateful for.

Now relax, let go and enjoy a good sleep there is nothing more you can do today so let it go.

VICTORY! CONTRATULATIONS!

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All those extras you saw in this article that require you to take conscious control of your actions may see overwhelming considering what your day normally looks like. Well the bottomline is that it takes the same energy so you have everything to gain.

The reason why it generally doesn’t happen is because we either don’t realise that it really is this simple OR we don’t really want a better life enough to stop before we act or think about what we are saying and doing.

Fact is, you can’t stop yourself from thinking thoughts, they will wander in constantly but you can head them off when you see they are something ‘destructive’ and stop them from reaching your mouth or your keyboard or stop you dwelling on them enough to ride them into a bad feeling. Bad feelings create bad experiences.

You are a powerful force. Simply focus on turning yours around so that you can have a joyful day and keep your vibe and your atttitude as powered up as much as possible. Joyful days lead to joyful weeks which lead to joyful years! Everything you relate to gets tarred with this attitude and energy you are in. That’s exciting.

When you have learned to take mastery of yourself during a day, you will see your life change in exciting ways if you keep it up. You truly can get anything you want from life if you stop and think about how you are behaving and considering the EFFECT it is having.

Big Question:- “So Annemarie, if it really is that simple, why is the self-development business a multi-billion dollar industry?!”

Answer:- “BECAUSE we won’t do the simple things required to control ourselves so we seek more and more knowledge to motivate and inspire us.” …and it is fabulous that it is available!

Quick Overview of all other Articles by Annemarie

Your Personal Success is attached to YOU..

but you are not being YOU are you?

It is not often we are asked the question “Who are you?”… if ever!

Most of us never even manifest 10% of our potential simply because we are completely messed up.  We are a mess of alter egos, schizophrenic personalities… riddled with conflicts and contradictions.

The situations we find ourselves in and the questions we plague ourselves with have grown in size and have become more complicated SIMPLY BECAUSE we have grown further away from our real self. We think because circumstances change we are heading for a better life but what we are really heading for is the same experience which simply looks outwardly different.

So who are you really?

This profound breakthrough comes from asking the question “What are my values?” Often times, the way to answer this question is to discover what we don’t value which can be flipped around?

Example:

“I don’t like people who are impolite!”

Great. Now you have established you like politeness.

When you hear something or see something WHICH YOU AGREE with or leaves you feeling at peace with…. this is a clear indication that you are feeling peaceful because it MATCHES YOU. This means you are establishing more definition about who you clearly are.

Nobody can give us any good feeling that does not already exist within us; they cannot put a finger on a button inside us and make the emotion go “Oh yeah, that feels good“.

We feel it because we RECOGNISE it. Recognise means to “re-cognise” i.e. to realign ourselves with perfectly.

Once you establish and be more clearer about whom you are, what do you do with this; how does this empower your experiences and bring on more of what you want?

Once you have established your values such as “I love:-

• politeness, being sociable, kindness, having many friendships, caring about children, superficiality (or the opposite, intensity), fairness, situations where I am free to express myself, being able to work the hours I want etc.”… you must become a TEN in the behaviour of these qualities and practices.

The reason you create power by doing this is two-fold:-

1. If you clearly define the real you and become a TEN at being you, you attract you to the power of ten.
2. If you become a 10 at whatever value you are expressing, you help others to:-

• Either realise they are this value and you show them a superb example of what a 10 looks and behaves like;
  OR

• By demonstrating this value as a 10, you help others figure out more quickly what they are not!

  Example: you may be a superficial person which means you care about the most surface qualities such as remembering a person’s name, their child or dog’s name and so in the presence of somebody who is very intense to the power of ten you will quickly be repelled by their behaviour and they help you to see that this is not something that matters to you – you are in fact the opposite!

  
  

If you value fairness, do not automatically judge that fairness is a good or bad value and therefore because YOU value it, everyone else should. All human behaviour plays a critical and integral part in the world. Without unfairness, we would never get to feel what fairness feels like and how good it feels.

The universe is driven by laws which we need to live by in order to access the whole of our ‘personal universe’. One of the fundamental laws is the Law of Polarity which states that for everything that exists, there exists an exact and equal opposite; it is there for a reason and not to be questioned.

We spend so much of our lives questioning, experimenting, making investments into our life in the hope it will improve but we are wasting time and money.

The rules are already there but we were never taught them. Most of what we need to live a rich life has never been taught either in school or in our jobs and that is where we spend most of our time.

Your key to success is to become a 10 at the person you are designed to be… the way you know who you are is by listening to your true values (which I know takes courage).

You are going to have to fight to be the person you truly are because everyone around you is going to project onto you, their ideas of who they think you should be. It’s not their fault but for you to submit and play at being who they want you to be IS your fault…. or at least it is now you are aware!

* Life is not what you hoped because you made it complicated.

* You made it complicated because you didn’t get the results you wanted.

* You didn’t get the results you wanted because you kept doing the same things over and over…

* BECAUSE you didn’t know how to follow the SIMPLE RULES.

ONE EXERCISE you can do to help you establish your values which DEFINE WHO YOU ARE is to think of all the people you find attractive in life and be specific about why you like them. What is it you see, hear or see that ‘feels good to you’.

Let me demonstrate by my own example.  I find the following people very attractive TO ME for the following reasons:-

Oprah Winfrey – Genuinely cares about helping people;
Donald Trump – Like the way he respects himself;
Joe Vitale – I really believe this man holds love in his heart with everything he does;
Robbie Williams – I like his courage to be vulnerable and be himself.
Larry Winget – Love the direct way he teaches, he’s not afraid to tell it like it is!

Now, you may not see these things in these people, however this is what I SEE and this is WHAT I REALLY APPRECIATE… which means this is what is of VALUE TO ME and therefore the true me.

When I read Larry Winget’s book “Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life” I actually wept. I felt such a relief because in my heart of heart’s that is truly who I am. I generally hold love in my heart however I need to express that love by ‘telling it like it is’ and Larry gave me courage to be more of myself. I could see how I was still ‘playing it safe’ and not really saying what I really needed to say (as me!).

So do the exercise to find out what you really like about people and what really leaves you feeling happy and peaceful.  It can be any behaviour which attracts you but get clear now! This is clearly who you are and you need to be doing more of it every day NOT doing it when you get time to think about it.

You cannot afford NOT to be yourself for one moment longer.

We are used to focusing so much of our attention on what we can see and that is why we are working blindly for the most part. It is not precisely what we do that has the biggest impact in our lives, it is the thoughts and emotions behind what we are doing that the Universal scanner takes as ‘instruction’…

…and so much of what we actually do is riddled with contradiction, anger, frustration, hopelessness, exhaustion, jealousy, low self-esteem simply because we are totally off track.

You think that, by going along to a friend’s party just because you can’t let them down when in your heart you know you really don’t want to will gain you kudos; in truth, behind the façade of turning up and smiling, is ‘disrespect’ and an ‘unhappy feeling’.

In truth, unless you can be absolutely joyful when you arrive at your friend’s house, you have achieved nothing. You have insulted yourself and your friend and actually been more destructive than if you’d stayed home and been honest with your friend!

About ten years ago I changed my name. I never really enjoyed being called ‘Marie’ and those feelings were hurting me for 38 years simply because nobody told me I was free to be myself and change it.

Changing my name to Annemarie has been one of the most significant catalysts in the way I feel about myself and my impact in the world.. not only did it cost me a mere $30 to change… but my parents and everyone around me embraced and started using my new name within 48 hours!

When you start being the real YOU, your real destiny will start. You are unique for a reason, if there were two of you, you would be unnecessary!

It was Albert Einstein who said “When the answer is simple, it’s God answering!”

So, who are you? Start living the life you were born to live today!

If you want to get clearer about who you are and the condition of your potential and power at this given time BY LOOKING AT THE MEN AND WOMEN AROUND YOU… Get yourself a copy of Power Surge and have your eyes really opened!