Serv(ice) or Suffer – Success or Misery
It is becoming overly apparent that the miserable experiences that have been happening within our lives have been happening because we have misunderstood ‘how’ to make joyful experiences happen.
Life is essentially an illusion but it has taken us the best part of the last century to discover this… but now we know!
The ways we have tried to fix the problems could never really have worked.
One of the fundamental illusions is that we have not understood that we must ‘give to get’ because our giving is a concrete demonstration to the creative force of how SERIOUS we are about this activity (if you have read Power Surge then I remind you about your Crew).
Let’s use ‘business’ as an example to demonstrate this principle.
A business’ success is dependent on how many ‘satisified’ customers it can secure. The income from any business is presently in the hands of customers and they will not part with that money until you have offered something to them to add to the benefit of their life.
Furthermore, if that benefit continues to be on offer and satisfies all the customers’ needs in terms of availability, price, delivery, adding more pleasure to the person’s life… then an exchange is secured and will continue.
The reason why I use business as an example is because it gives us an opportunity to detach and look objectively at this life changing principle.
We want more from life but we are not prepared to give more and I hasten to jump in here quickly and stop you from imagining ‘giving more’ requires anything more than you already have. This is a total MISCONCEPTION BY YOU.
The Universal Bank works on the principle that you will attract that which you are. If you are a ‘taker’, the outside world will constantly ‘take’ from you.
If you are sitting evaluating whether you believe yourself to be a taker or a giver, make sure that when you take into account your actions you include your thoughts and feelings ASWELL (this might change the picture somewhat!).
So many times we give a material resource but what we are truly thinking and feelings could be in complete contradiction!
You have the opportunity to start a new life today. Forget the past, let it go, what’s good about it will pay off anyway, start afresh and here’s how:-
1. Be a radical giver of your time, energy and resources. Let go of waiting until everything is perfect.
2. The Universe can only work with a channel initiated BY YOU. It doesn’t matter what that channel is.. it could be a conversation, a thought, a flyer, a letter, an email, a gift, a helping hand.
Treat every resource you have which you can serve someone as a bag of magic dust.
Stop deciding whether you think it is good enough or perfect enough.
You have absolutely NO IDEA what the universe can do with it but if you don’t do anything we can determine what the Universe will do with it!
BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU MAKE EVERY DAY
We fail to serve the world on a daily basis because generally speaking we are too self absorbed.
Our daily lives are focused on taking care of ourselves so we do not serve.
Well think about what you did with your time, energy and resources yesterday.
Was it all about you???
Let me provoke your conclusions and offer a little to help to get clearer about your level of service:-
Breakfast – YOU
Children? You might argue that even the children are not about you but if you sit down and get real about this you will find that ultimately whatever you did it was ultimately intended to make you feel good. Did you go next door and offer to look after the neighbour’s children??? If not, ask why and you will see that it is because they are not yours right?
You think working a job is serving? Ask the question that if your company didn’t pay you would you still go in? No? Then really the motivation is your pay check… i.e. you again.
Even if we think about serving whether it is a friend or in business, we get caught up in the ‘where this will go’ and this is NOT your domain, this is where the corruption in your efforts occurs.
If you have a business you have already experienced this I am sure.
THE DESTRUCTION IN PERFECTION
Maybe you are looking at your internet business and you are not putting out resources into the public domain to serve because you feel it’s not good enough.
You are waiting until you have studied all the internet materials, you need to understand how to gleen millions in traffic, and you can’t put up your site because you haven’t figured out how to capture all the customer details… and on and on it goes.
So guess what… nothing happens.
* You share nothing;
WHAT IS GOING TO RADICALLY TRANSFORM EVERYTHING FOR YOU.
Imagine the Universal Creative Force as Big Brother.
All the Big Guy is doing is STUDYING THE NATURE OF YOUR THOUGHT, YOUR FEELING AND WHETHER THERE WAS A PHYSICAL ACTIVITY and then he is going to mirror this back to your reality in the form of your experience.
Your level of service determines how much you want to be served.
The creative force matches your efforts and before you fall into that trap again of concluding what you consider ‘effort’ to mean, I remind you that the effort to send an email containing a sincere, heart felt compliment when you want to complain is CONSIDERABLE so don’t dismiss its power. Attitude is something we choose and is totally under our control.
Adopt a totally non-selfish attitude to having all your selfish needs met. You might even want to play the most powerful game you can play for the most exciting stakes???
From the moment you get up, clock as many acts of service as you can (without counting the cost to you or more importantly, trying to figure out where the return will come or whether it will make a difference…
…because even if you do try to figure it out, your possibilities will be very limited compared to what can come if you just get out of the way.
But remember… the universe has access to your thoughts and feelings… your focus is “How can I help you with everything I have?”.. if you have a specific expectation in return, forget it, you just lost a point!
GIVING IS A DYNAMIC WITH NO EXPECTATIONS ATTACHED.
Many people think they have grasped this but I can see from behaviour that they haven’t. It means once you have offered up (a compliment, something material, or some activity) you must leave it alone.
Serve and you will be served. Do unto others what you would have done unto you. It is a scientific based formula which means there are no exceptions, no background, education or financial requirements that block it from happening to you.
Article by Brent Filson
Ever since serving a hitch in the military, I have been nagged by the question that’s been hanging around leadership since time immemorial: How can some leaders persuade people to believe in them and follow them and other leaders can’t? But it wasn’t the military that provided me with a framework to answer that question. It was Albert Einstein and his quest for the unified field theory of the universe.
Einstein is well known for his special and general theories of relativity, two of the crowning intellectual achievements of the 20th century. But what he is not so well known for is a magnificent quest that he carried on for some 30 years — and ultimately failed in. That was his quest for a unified field theory of the universe. And it was a quest that inspired me, in my small way, to find an answer to the leadership question.
Einstein’s special theory combined space and time into a single concept known as the space-time continuum. He spent the rest of his life failing to develop a unified field theory that incorporated gravity into the electromagnetic field. But it wasn’t his trying to solve the conundrums of physics that inspired me. It was his trying to unify the grand forces of the universe that’s so compelling.
Just as there are grand forces driving the activities of the universe, I’m convinced that there are grand forces driving the activities of leadership. Whether we are talking about small or large organizations, organizations of butchers, bakers or candlestick makers, the same leadership forces — leadership laws, if you will — apply. Or at least that I was my theory, that was my quest: to find the laws of leadership, if they did indeed exist, and then show how those laws can be applied in any organizational challenge. In short, we can have a “unified field theory of leadership.”
I won’t go into the details of how I came to develop the theory — only that after a quest of several decades, working with leaders of all stripes, I developed what I call the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. I’m certainly not unifying such grand concepts as gravity and the electromagnetic field; but my theory, in its small way, has helped many leaders around the world raise their leadership effectiveness to much higher levels.
Here then is the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. It is not magic dust to transform you into a great leader. It is instead a polestar to guide and help you invigorate your leadership and communication efforts.
The UFTLS is expressed as a series of four propositions.
- Business success happens when people get results. Clearly, this is not some strange, UFO- like concept. Instead, it is a BFO a Blinding Flash of the Obvious. Yet obvious or not, it is ignored by many leaders
- too many leaders. Too many leaders focus on enabling such drivers as quality initiatives, re-engineering projects, and cost-cutting programs
- at the expense of the people who must animate those drivers. For instance, I know of a company that is engaged in the fourth major restructuring in the past half dozen years.
- Three of those initiatives have failed, mainly because they ignored the human/leadership aspect. In fact, I propose that the new initiative is doomed to fail too.
It’s obvious why: instead of being driven by a compelling market strategy, strong products, or a vision of marketplace leadership, this new restructuring is being driven by a new computer system! The officers are restructuring the company primarily to better employ that system, not to better employ people for results. I dare say the light that they may perceive to be at the end of the tunnel will turn out in truth to be a search party looking for survivors.
Leaders do nothing more important than have people get results. Another seemingly obvious statement. Yet when I give talks to leaders around the world, and ask them, “What is the most important thing you do as a leader?” some 95 percent of them give every answer but this one. This is the only right answer.
Understand the power in the seeming passiveness of “have.” Leaders cannot get results by themselves. They need others to help get those results. Today, with speed, flexibility, and teamwork being driving competitiveness, the control-freak order-leader who must tyrannize and micro manage can’t compete against the leader who can build and motivate teams to get results. In short, the leader who can “have” others get results.
The best way to have people get results is not to order them but to motivate them. Like leadership purpose, motivation is another concept that is misunderstood by many leaders. If we misunderstand the concept of motivation, how in the world can we motivate anybody to do anything? Here are the four “eternal truths” of motivation:
- Motivation is not something people think or feel but what they physically do. Only when people take physical action can they in truth be defined as “motivated.
- Motivation is not something we can do to anyone. We as leaders can only communicate. The people we want to motivate must motivate themselves. The motivatee and the motivator are always the same person.
- Motivation is driven by emotion. In fact, the words emotion and motivation come from the same Latin root, meaning “to move.” When we want to move people, motivate people, to take action, we engage their emotions.
- Motivation happens best when it is triggered by face-to-face speech.
We lead well only when the people we lead are leading well. Let’s throw out the old concept of leadership. That concept is based on the idea of “followership”
— successful leaders being the ones who got people to follow them. Baloney! Today, the speed and scope of change in the marketplace demand a new vision of leadership, leadership that can not only deal with that change but actually speed it up and make opportunities of it. That vision is this fourth proposition. How many times have we heard this seeming praise, “They’re such great leaders, they can’t be replaced!”
Within the terms of the new leadership dynamics, those “great, irreplaceable leaders” are in truth poor leaders that should be gotten rid of! If the leader’s function is to have others get results, then the best way is not simply to motivate them but to motivate them to lead others to get those results. When we challenge our leaders to truly lead, we change their world and ours. Only then are we leading well.
Those are the four propositions of the Unified Field Theory of Leadership Success. Einstein failed in his quest for a unified field theory; but the success or failure of this Theory of Leadership rests with you. Put it into action. Guided by its ideas, develop strategies, processes, and leadership skills.
When you do, I can’t promise that you will develop an e=mc2-like revelation, but you will start on the road to being a better leader. Because the four propositions do provide defining differences between leaders. Those differences are not as grand as the differences between gravity and electromagnetic fields, but they can help you do that very simple, down-to-earth thing that your career, that any career, rests on: lead.
Founder & President
The Filson Leadership Group, Inc.