Where's my U-Turn? With any form of unhappiness in life the perfect solution lies precisely where the problem is. The word depression means slump and sunken. This 'withdrawal' is our body and mind showing us that we are not seeing clearly. It is a natural and healthy mechanism which helps us know when we can't see where to go. Usually we withdraw because we do not have a vision. In our mind we cannot see ourselves in a situation and so the body requires no energy to move. It can be explained as disillusionment or lack of hope.
Here is an exercise to help you get clear about your unique path to living a prosperous fulfilling life. You might want to get a piece of paper just to help you see yourself in print. What we are doing with this exercise is re-cognising you with your divine, unique personality. This exercise demonstrates how you are attracted to that which you are. Who you truly are is your winning formula.
Male and female 'nature' tell you how to win and what we must go through. We are all male and female inside. We manifest in separate genders so we can see the true characteristics so we know how to 'marry' them within. However we never got the manual and so prosperity gets held back as we muddle through! One prosperity signpost is reflected in women bleeding every month...
For decades I believed that life was fair and that we are all equal, probably but it was one of those things I assumed without really digging deeper. The laws of nature work for everyone but the laws are not the problem, we are. Nor do we change when we have had enough pain, this is nonsense. Pain sends us inward wanting to pull back from life. Only joy and pictures of happines motivate us to put in effort; we are not stupid...
Fulfillment and prosperity can often delude us because our perspective is upside down. Prosperity comes to us as we put our genius out into the world to deliver and free others. As we seed our gifts into others’ our life will become more fulfilling and prosperous. If you don’t know about this process, the confusion can cause you to miss the mark not only in your own career/business but in other people’s gift in your life...
The line between success and failure is very slim. The irony about life is that the energy, time and effort is the same to be rich as poor. Sounds ridiculous doesn't it. It is hard to believe but someone struggling demonstrates every day that they have bundles of stamina, commitment, self- discipline and determination so the deciding factor is not attached to these kinds of efforts! A criminal has all the attributes to be wealthy! So what is the detail which turns failure to success. Why does stamina, commitment, self-discipline and determination product a prosperous life for some and not for others?
Ever been to a meeting or finished a project and heard yourself saying to a colleague "well how do you think it went?" I did this a while ago and as I moved to open my mouth this strong voice shouted "SHUT UP". Took me back a bit but I shut up and listened. The voice went on to say "It happened, you fulfilled your commitment. Unless you are going to say anything to enhance the results SHUT UP!"
Prosperity; you don't need more information, you need revelation If you have read my past articles you will now know that a woman is revealing elements about the condition of your potential... and a man, revealing elements about the condition of your power. OK, so let's imagine you are experiencing upset between you and your partner or you and other close relationships. It all looks devastating, you feel out of control, your heart hurts, you are angry and frustrated... but it feels a lot worse than it actually is. Freedom and breakthrough is much easier than you imagine.
Take a good look at your partner - pay attention to what upsets you! Divorce and relationship breaks up are sadly becoming fashionable. If we really knew the truth behind the dynamic of our relationships we would not walk away so lightly. If our partner is a man, they are playing out the behaviour of our own dynamic of POWER (the ability to make things happen in the physical). If our partner is a woman, they are playing out the behaviour of our own dynamic of POTENTIAL (the quality of the experience of all your activities and resources). The problem is not that we decide to end the 'commitment', the problem is that too many people walk away without taking responsibility for what they are doing that causes the 'pain'. We walk away because we feel we are not in control but we are!
Discover your real focus and stay there. Some people know early on in life what they are born to do and pursue it with all consuming passion. The clarity comes from the passion which unconsciously drives their focus and so learning how to is not necessary. For others like me it is something that is discovered after a longer process; maybe simply because in my case I didn't know how to read the signs. I didn't know how there was a specific plan for my life or how to know what road to take.
Prosper an abundant life in your life with your man
As many of my articles have explained, our relationships are a mirror of the relationship within ourself and to be prosperous we have to be in the flow.
So ladies, let’s take a look at your man. Knowing him is the key to loving him and the key to loving him is the key to a more prosperous and abundant life.
What you must always remember about your man and keep it alive:
1. He must always have a battle to fight;
2. He must always have an adventure to live;
3. He must always have a beauty to save.
(These three references come from John Eldredge “Wild at Heart”)
As with everything that is created, when it performs its core functions it thrives and you need to have things in your life that are thriving because you win.
Battle to fight – Self Confidence
Your man will always be a warrior at heart, he was made that way and the more secure he is the more of a warrior he will be. He needs courage and security and the best way to give him that is firstly to accept his need to be fighting a cause and secondly he needs validation that he is a strong protector.
Reminding your man constantly that “We’ll be OK, don’t worry… with all that fabulous strong energy and stamina you have, what can harm us… you always work things out, you always cause great things to happen...” is what your man needs to hear.
It would always be very helpful to know his childhood relationship with his father to find out if he felt validated, i.e. “You can do it son, I love you, you are great!”
If your partner didn’t get that then it is even more prevalent that the success and prosperity in your lifestyle depends on you giving this to him. Never mind how you feel, whether you think he deserves it or how upset, stressed, angry you are. Your life in this relationship is the way it is because everything is messed up. It’s natural dynamic of loving, harmony and clear identity is out of balance. Did you make him that way? No, however you did attract him to show you something within yourself which needs empowering.
It is important to help him become all that he was made to be. If your motive is right and full of genuine love for him, your life will thrive. It many not prosper perhaps the plan you had but remember this, if your plan was based on a messed up version of you how rich and abundant do you think your plan would have been? If you do the right thing, your life will be right. In John 10:10, Jesus makes it clear what that version of a right life means… “I came that you may live life, to the full, in abundance until it overflows“. That is some promise and it is ours for the taking!
Save a beauty – Personal Power
Another function of your man’s gender is to “save a beauty”. There is the Lancelot aspect of him where he needs to be the hero that rides in and the saves the day.
“Well“, you argue, “I am constantly asking him to do things for me but I get a different reaction, he is angry and irritated“. That’s because being a ‘damsel in distress’ is a clear and defined attitude.
It is not “Yo, Lancelot get your butt in here, we have kids and it’s time you took out the rubbish as you promised!“
It is “Honey, could I get your help with some jobs today, I love your stamina… or you do things much better, quicker than I do…. or I’m really struggling honey, could you help me, I’d appreciate it.” Then when he has done it, thanking him!
How do you know you are getting the attitude right? Well that’s pretty simple, just ask yourself would you be attracted to running in to help or do you feel this big fat heavy finger pressed against your back?
Up until meeting my husband at 38, I was fiercely independent and had always done everything alone even holidayed alone. When I moved into a relationship with my partner my reality took a 360 degree turn. My husband takes care of so many jobs without me even asking him. He does that because I never point the finger, I never expect but he picks up on my energy and senses the need to “be a hero”.
Am I capable? Heck, I’m a woman, we are amazing but my prosperity is playing other magnificent roles!
I was so messed up I even used to get angry with a guy if he opened the door for me. I used to think “Don’t you think I can even open a door for myself!” Now I love it and I make sure the guy knows it! Boy did I get it wrong and boy was my life miserable.
Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
We can take this dynamic right back to the beginning to Adam and Eve, they had only just been created when Adam had to run in to save Eve who had just started getting herself into a mess (and this was probably just the honeymoon!).
Adventure to live – Self Expression
Your man needs to have some time to be adventurous. Don’t try to understand his fishing trips, his computer games or his golf but it is important that he gets time and freedom to do that.
Everything in this world is attached to relationships. The world is a mess because of what is happening energetically within us and the evidence of that can be see in the relationships around us.
The general climate of the world unkind, selfish and even countries are losing their identity. Statistically one in two marriages are breaking up. This is happening because we are losing our identity. We are not committed to ourselves, are unkind to ourselves and only see our point of view.
Men focus on what they can see
Another very important quality about a man is understanding that he is ‘physical’ in his understanding of the world. He operates in the world he can see whereas women have strengths in the etheric realms such as thoughts and feelings. We are strong in ‘sensing’ things.
This explains why we complain when our man doesn’t buy us flowers or treat us. He is much more simple than we imagine. He looks at what is happening and takes it as fact. He doesn’t see you buying flowers for yourself! That is why so often women get kitchen equipment as christmas presents and then get furious! He sees those things as the things that matter to us because we ‘prove’ they are. We set ourselves up as stressed out, super heros and then wonder why he gets mixed signals.
Why do we find it so hard to do what we need to do to love our partner?
Well simply because we are all wounded somewhere and so we are bent on self protection. That can take many forms… hiding, controlling, perfectionism (we all have one). If we can risk letting go of our own self protection enough to simply think about what our partner needs to thrive, the benefits are nothing short of incredible.
The truth is that we all have male and female qualities written into our DNA and these can help us but the problem is we don’t have good examples.
For example, as a woman there are times you need Herculean strength particular in the face of raising children but without seeing that strength which your husband is here to demonstrate or seeing it in men around you get it all wrong too and you don’t get to see how natural that strength could be! Surround yourself and empower men to be who they are so you have fabulous examples thriving in your world. What goes on in the outside, effects the inside. You will become your environment.
To know him is to be loving enough to accept him. To accept him and allow him to be him is to have him thrive, be prosperous, successful, abundant and happy.
Whether you like it or want to acknowledge it or not, what is happening in your partner is always effecting the prosperity, happiness and health in your life and it is in your interest to find peace.
Always keep in mind the purpose of marriage. It is to add another dynamic to your life to help you achieve more happiness, love, abundance and health. If God has blessed your marriage then the reason why he gives the blessing is to let you know that He will make sure you have everything you need for both of you to be the best you can be and experience the best of what life has to offer. So if your joy is dressing up, having dinner parties, driving convertible cars he is going to make sure you have everything you need to have the best of what you want. He put the desire there in the first place when he made the special, unique person you are!
Bailing out on relationships just means you meet the same situation again. Your partnership is a physical representation of literally how your cells are relating. Love your man, love your self!
How to be an authentic man or woman in a relationship – Read my article
Relationships mirror alignment to abundance
How does your relationships determine your prosperity?
In short, your relationships show you the relationship within yourself and for prosperity to flow the dynamic must be reflect what prosperity stands for…
…a thriving, flourishing condition.
OK so what does that mean?
Well, beyond the fundamental understanding that thriving and flourishing means giving something nourishment, the detail is for you to decide. Desire is essentially what makes us happy and that is personal.
What kind of home life, partner, career, body image suits you?
You decide. But whatever you decide you must have it going on in your life in both sides of you.
What both sides of my self are we talking about?
The two sides of you are your power and your potential. In short, your ability to make something actually happen and then the quality of the experience within it.
To give you an example, that means the ability to manifest a car and then the experience of owning that car (is it easy to pay for, maintained well, serve all your lifestyle needs?)
How do I see if I am on course for a successful outcome?
Well that’s simple.
Any relationship with a man is reflecting your relationship to your power (making it happen);
Any relationship with a woman is reflecting your relationship to your potential (your experience).
How do I power them up for success and prosperity?
Every time you are UPSET with a man or a woman you ask:
What exactly am I upset about and listen to the precise words;
Is this something I am doing I need to stop doing or do more of?;
Is it effecting my power (a man) or my potential (a woman)?
The goal must be PEACE. It doesn’t matter whether they still behave badly (as you see it) or not, the destruction that is blocking your manifestation power is the ‘upset’ you FEEL.
Your husband is always late home for dinner.
I am upset because “I feel disrespected”
I disrespect myself and need to stop, my actions must match my needs.
It is a man so every time I get upset I stop things on my dream list ‘happening’
Decision to be successful and turn on my flow of abundance
I will use my words carefully to help my husband see how it’s in his interest to arrive home on time
I will simply let it go, I know he works hard and is doing his best.
Either way, you MUST resolve the emotional upset. While you are upset your energies are at war… they are completely repelling like two north pole magnets trying to be pushing towards each other… one part of you is saying yes and the other no. This means you stay exactly where you are.
This energy dynamic is showing us moment by moment what we need to work on. We are constantly asking complicated questions, buying more books and courses whilst the answer we are looking for is coming at us during our day.
Every person in your world is attracted by you and playing out a role which is happening within you. Walking away is not the solution. See what they are showing you, take action to learn and gain peace…
… all the other stuff going on is because of these upsets. Don’t fool yourself it is because of the economy, your job, you married the wrong woman, your upbringing, the culture you live in, because you have children.
You have the power to change it NOW.
Does more flow in prosperity require radical change?
Yes. However understand what radical means. It means a complete shift in direction… extreme change from accepted or traditional forms…
…not exhaustive amounts of energy, money and life-changing upheaval!
Instead of expressing anger at my wife because my dinner isn’t ready as I walked through the door as we agreed…
I decide to take a deep breath, claim the fact that she loves me, perhaps she had a very busy or a difficult day and hurting her will not help either of us. Perhaps I will ask her how her day went and get the facts before I assume her day should have been all about me! If she feels bad I lose!
These moments are the moments when you will rock the very fabric of your life but we are missing them.
Because we are too busy and too unhappy.
Because we are not maintaining prosperity in the moments we have. They are full of upset, anger, frustration, stress, disillusionment and assuming the worst.
Look at the people you interact with daily and see where you are ‘repelling your prosperity’ by observing your emotional upset. It won’t go away, it is inside you so take control and channel it into love, acceptance and peace…
THEN you will see it show up in your work, finances, home, partnerships and a healthy body. What is even more exciting is that each of these aspects are precisely interconnected so if we empower one it has a dominoe effect on the other.
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Serv(ice) or Suffer – Success or Misery
It is becoming overly apparent that the miserable experiences that have been happening within our lives have been happening because we have misunderstood ‘how’ to make joyful experiences happen.
Life is essentially an illusion but it has taken us the best part of the last century to discover this… but now we know!
The ways we have tried to fix the problems could never really have worked.
One of the fundamental illusions is that we have not understood that we must ‘give to get’ because our giving is a concrete demonstration to the creative force of how SERIOUS we are about this activity (if you have read Power Surge then I remind you about your Crew).
Let’s use ‘business’ as an example to demonstrate this principle.
A business’ success is dependent on how many ‘satisified’ customers it can secure. The income from any business is presently in the hands of customers and they will not part with that money until you have offered something to them to add to the benefit of their life.
Furthermore, if that benefit continues to be on offer and satisfies all the customers’ needs in terms of availability, price, delivery, adding more pleasure to the person’s life… then an exchange is secured and will continue.
The reason why I use business as an example is because it gives us an opportunity to detach and look objectively at this life changing principle.
We want more from life but we are not prepared to give more and I hasten to jump in here quickly and stop you from imagining ‘giving more’ requires anything more than you already have. This is a total MISCONCEPTION BY YOU.
The Universal Bank works on the principle that you will attract that which you are. If you are a ‘taker’, the outside world will constantly ‘take’ from you.
If you are sitting evaluating whether you believe yourself to be a taker or a giver, make sure that when you take into account your actions you include your thoughts and feelings ASWELL (this might change the picture somewhat!).
So many times we give a material resource but what we are truly thinking and feelings could be in complete contradiction!
You have the opportunity to start a new life today. Forget the past, let it go, what’s good about it will pay off anyway, start afresh and here’s how:-
1. Be a radical giver of your time, energy and resources. Let go of waiting until everything is perfect.
2. The Universe can only work with a channel initiated BY YOU. It doesn’t matter what that channel is.. it could be a conversation, a thought, a flyer, a letter, an email, a gift, a helping hand.
Treat every resource you have which you can serve someone as a bag of magic dust.
Stop deciding whether you think it is good enough or perfect enough.
You have absolutely NO IDEA what the universe can do with it but if you don’t do anything we can determine what the Universe will do with it!
BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU MAKE EVERY DAY
We fail to serve the world on a daily basis because generally speaking we are too self absorbed.
Our daily lives are focused on taking care of ourselves so we do not serve.
Well think about what you did with your time, energy and resources yesterday.
Was it all about you???
Let me provoke your conclusions and offer a little to help to get clearer about your level of service:-
Breakfast – YOU
Children? You might argue that even the children are not about you but if you sit down and get real about this you will find that ultimately whatever you did it was ultimately intended to make you feel good. Did you go next door and offer to look after the neighbour’s children??? If not, ask why and you will see that it is because they are not yours right?
You think working a job is serving? Ask the question that if your company didn’t pay you would you still go in? No? Then really the motivation is your pay check… i.e. you again.
Even if we think about serving whether it is a friend or in business, we get caught up in the ‘where this will go’ and this is NOT your domain, this is where the corruption in your efforts occurs.
If you have a business you have already experienced this I am sure.
THE DESTRUCTION IN PERFECTION
Maybe you are looking at your internet business and you are not putting out resources into the public domain to serve because you feel it’s not good enough.
You are waiting until you have studied all the internet materials, you need to understand how to gleen millions in traffic, and you can’t put up your site because you haven’t figured out how to capture all the customer details… and on and on it goes.
So guess what… nothing happens.
* You share nothing;
WHAT IS GOING TO RADICALLY TRANSFORM EVERYTHING FOR YOU.
Imagine the Universal Creative Force as Big Brother.
All the Big Guy is doing is STUDYING THE NATURE OF YOUR THOUGHT, YOUR FEELING AND WHETHER THERE WAS A PHYSICAL ACTIVITY and then he is going to mirror this back to your reality in the form of your experience.
Your level of service determines how much you want to be served.
The creative force matches your efforts and before you fall into that trap again of concluding what you consider ‘effort’ to mean, I remind you that the effort to send an email containing a sincere, heart felt compliment when you want to complain is CONSIDERABLE so don’t dismiss its power. Attitude is something we choose and is totally under our control.
Adopt a totally non-selfish attitude to having all your selfish needs met. You might even want to play the most powerful game you can play for the most exciting stakes???
From the moment you get up, clock as many acts of service as you can (without counting the cost to you or more importantly, trying to figure out where the return will come or whether it will make a difference…
…because even if you do try to figure it out, your possibilities will be very limited compared to what can come if you just get out of the way.
But remember… the universe has access to your thoughts and feelings… your focus is “How can I help you with everything I have?”.. if you have a specific expectation in return, forget it, you just lost a point!
GIVING IS A DYNAMIC WITH NO EXPECTATIONS ATTACHED.
Many people think they have grasped this but I can see from behaviour that they haven’t. It means once you have offered up (a compliment, something material, or some activity) you must leave it alone.
Serve and you will be served. Do unto others what you would have done unto you. It is a scientific based formula which means there are no exceptions, no background, education or financial requirements that block it from happening to you.
Every stopped to figure out who you truly are? Your success is attached to who you are.. but you are not being you are you? Find out how to be your true self and tap into your TRUE success. The answers are simple but we are used to living in a complicated way, i.e. completely off-track. We are living with conflicts and contradictions of ourself and that is why the Universal Bank cannot find us. Clean up the chaos and confusion once and for all and discover your personal joy.
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